Chronically Ill Non-Compliant 19 Year Old
I am a mother of a 19 year old daughter who has been chronically ill her whole life and now is in renal failure stage 4 and getting close to dialysis. She is very non-compliant with her health. Some examples are not going to doctor appointments, no longer taking medication, etc.
She left home when she was 18 which will be 2 years in June and we have only seen her 4 times. Last Friday I received a call from the mother of her friend where she is staying, who told me I needed to come pick her up and take her to the hospital. To make a long story short, she was very ill, had to get 2 units of blood and was in the hospital for a week when she checked herself out.
I had planned for her to come back home but she had other plans. She does not care about anything and I had pleaded with the doctors for her to have a psychiatric evaluation. I feel so guilty, but I know that my husband and son do not want her to come back home. She has basically burned her bridges with everyone in our family and everyone has tried to help her. She lived with her father, but he put her out and she lived with her grandparents and same thing happened.
She has had these problems since about the age of 13. We went to numerous counselors and psychologists and nothing ever came of these sessions.
I love my daughter so much but I cannot watch her die. I really do not know what to do and this is really hurting our entire family. I am sick from this and all I really want to do is help her but she doesn't want any help. She has no job and no money and has quit school. She says shes too tired for school but can party and drink all night.
Do you have any advice?
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