CBT Therapy and Transference
Dear Dr Schwartz,
I have recently been having CBT therapy for OCD. I found it hard to trust my therapist at first. But he has been very caring. Now I have had feelings for him which made me confused and worried. I am married and religious. I told him about this by telephone. Then I saw him, and I was very embarrased and worried. This was my last session till I start seeing him again in November. He gave me some homework for OCD. Then said call him in November. I got home and phoned him, as I was worried and said, "how will I cope till November?" He said okay, you can call me in between to let me know how I am doing.
Next day I called and was very emotional. I felt I needed help at this time because I had all these feelings and emotions which I had never had before. A few days later I called and he was busy and he said I called twice and he was busy. I said I am so sorry. Anyway, he said I will speak to you soon. Then next time I called his supervisor would not let me speak to him. She said I called too much and that I should deal with my anxiety. I was horrified that im in trouble.
My doctor has sent a letter asking my therapist to see my again in November. I have had alot of abandonment issues and rejection. I have sent my therapist a few messages on facebook in inbox. I hope he read them. I said I feel rejected and I'm sorry for making him mad at me and hope he will still see me in november. I keep worrying about all this.
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