Is it Just a Name?!Mon, Nov 18th 2013
Short, I lost my only sibling in a car accident a few years ago. My siblings first name is something I treasure and we thought about using it as a middle name for our baby. When we were talking to our inlaws about baby names, they flat out said 'you can't use that name... That's our favorite name.' I told them why it was important to me, and they said they understood.
Recently, my inlaws have come up with their baby names - and guess which name is on the top of their list?! My siblings name. They approached my partner and I and asked how I would feel if they used the name. I told them it would hurt me. I wanted to possibly use the name in honor of my only sibling who has passed. And even if I don't end up using it, I don't want them to use it. To them it's just a name they like. To me it's a memory of my best friend who left this world at 25 years old.
My partner is caught in the middle of this whole situation. Am I overreacting? I've been crying since they told me it was their top name. And they think I'm being selfish.
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