Loyalty or Love?
I have been in a friendship/love affair with my girlfriend in the last 2 years and she is bipolar. In the last few months, this understanding and loving relationship has turned into a tense and hostile one with constant arguments. I have tried to be supportive by attending support group meetings, taking a great deal of workload off of her plate, helping her financially...all to no avail. Her manic episodes have become more and more apparent and now we've just recently had a argument that ended up with her physically attacking me. To add to the emotional injury, I just recently discovered that she is sleeping with another man. She and I have talked since her violent outburst and she has apologized for her behaviors and appreciates and loves me but I still can't get past the betrayal of this not occurring again. I really love her and want to forgive. Will my loyalty be enough to keep the love there in the relationship?
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