I don't know who my true self is!
Hi, i'm not usually open about anything like this. But i'm in need of answers. I'm a 19 year old male from England, UK. Ever since leaving high school, I feel as if I don't know who my true self is. I adapt the likings, traits and opinions of characters from movies and literally become that person. I'm very vain and depend on my physical appearance. I find I often alter my personality depending on who i'm with and how i'm affected by a situation. At school I wasn't the most popular kid, and if anyone was to make an attempt at bullying me I'd have to take it, but now just a few years later, hardly anyone recognizes me physically, and I'd be able to transform so easily into some that is higher than the person trying to bully. I don't have relationships, and fear them and I really don't know why. My views on relationships are negative, but again, that can change depending on who I am, and when I am. Can this change, or do I have to find a way to deal with it. Thank you.
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