I'm Attracted To My Therapist
Should a therapeutic relationship continue when both therapist and patient have realized that they are attracted to each other? The therapist has very firm boundaries and insists that if boundaries are respected on both sides that the relationship can still work. The therapeutic relationship is 2 years old and has been very successful thus far but not to the point yet where her issue has been worked through. The patient (female) admitted the attraction first and asked if it was mutual, the therapist (male) said no and then after about 6 months and very reluctantly, the therapist confessed it was mutual. Subsequently, the patient has developed very deep feelings for him and wants to pursue a physical relationship with him but he's not willing. She's torn, not wanting to start over with another therapist but finding it very difficult to get over the attraction. They have worked very hard together building a mutual trust and respect which has facilitated a lot of healing for the patient. I'm curious to know what you think the right thing to do would be.
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