Money and Friends
In my country $100 is big money, my mother's monthly salary. Some time ago my best friend asked our mother to loan her this money for a few months because she badly needed to go to someplace for treatment. My mother did that, knowing about our good relationship. It was my brother who handed her the money, and then he went away for a long time. In a month the friend turned up saying that she gave the money to her partner in some business, about which she hadn't told us before. The bill we gave her was forged, and they lost a lot of money. My mother didn't really believe her, because all of our money came from the bank. Only one bill had come from another close friend, but he insisted that his money was safe. Now my friend said that she was innocent and therefore should not go into defending herself. My mother pushed me, and I tried hard to make my friend find some proof, but in the end she said that I was accusing her for no reason and she wanted no more association with me. I was very disappointed, and my brother became angry about it. Now I feel guilty that I tried to push her and wretched not only our friendship, but my brother's friendship, too. I'm very depressed and keep thinking that everything could be different if only I had a little more sense about the situation. Can I do something to repair the damage?
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